Dating

I’m all about people who are just starting to date each other keeping some things to themselves until they feel comfortable enough to tell the other person. However, there are certain things that a man and a woman who are dating each other should know about each other by the third date. Honesty and trust have to be put into place right from the beginning. If you don’t have those, then you don’t have anything.

Whether or not either of you are married
Some people out there are open about the fact that they are married but still on a date with you. Some people are interested in having an affair, some are separated. Either way, the person is still married and that information should be shared. One of my girlfriends was dating a man who told her on the fifth date that he was married, but wanted to date her anyway. Some people are on the don’t ask, don’t tell policy. If the person that they are on a date with doesn’t ask them if they are married, then they feel that they are technically not lying about being married. There are, however, the majority of people who are married and trying to date on the side that aren’t going to reveal the fact that they’re married at all.

Whether or not you are dating other people
There are those out there who will casually date several people at one time until they decide on one person that they want a relationship with. Some may think that this information isn’t necessary to disclose, however, the other person may think that they are the only person in your life that you’re dating. Before feelings actually get involved, it’s best to reveal if you’re dating other people.

Whether or not you have ever been arrested and charged with a serious crime
I’m not talking about how you got arrested for protesting. I’m talking about crimes such as robbery, murder, sexual assault, etc. These are things the person you are dating has a right to know about you and vice versa. Besides, with the age of the internet, these things aren’t as private as you would think that they are.

Whether or not you’re transgender or transsexual
Sure there are people that won’t care, but that are people that would. There are also people that wouldn’t care, but if it’s not told to them in the beginning they would have a problem with the fact that you weren’t upfront. It’s best to put the information out there right from the beginning.

Whether or not you have children
Some people don’t care if someone they date has a child, then there are some people that just don’t want to date someone who has a child or children. It could be that that they don’t want kids, aren’t ready for them yet or just don’t want any more kids then the ones that they have already. Whatever the case may be, your (or their) children should be brought up within the first couple of dates.

Whether or not you have an STD
If you have an STD and you’re not telling the other person by the third date there’s a problem. Having knowledge that the person you’re dating has an STD is important. Why prolong the inevitable? Eventually the other person is going to find out if you continue to date them. They should have the option of how to handle things , not you making the decision to leave them in the dark. If you don’t tell them and they get the STD, one of three things could happen. They are going to assume that you didn’t have the STD from the beginning and you cheated on them with someone who had it, that you lied to them by not telling them you had it in the first place or they’re going to forgive you and let it go. Chances are it’s not going to be the last one. Be honest about your situation.

Basically if you tell the other person you’re dating the truth and they don’t accept you wholeheartedly for who you are, then they obviously they aren’t the person that you’re meant to be with.