You go on a fabulous date with someone. The conversation is outstanding, the chemistry is strong and they tell you they’re going to call you. A week later, you’ve heard nothing. You think to yourself- What the hell happened?
Well one of three things happened. Either the date didn’t go as well as you thought, something personal happened to them or the person choked, liked you, but didn’t know where to go from here. Believe me, I’ve had numerous friends and acquaintances who’ve done all three.
I’ve had friends or acquaintances who have been on either end of the misinterpretation of the date. A guy friend of mine went out with this girl, told her he was going to call her and never did. His date was an acquaintance of mine. The girl thought the date was great, my guy friend was bored silly. He stated that he was going to call her because he actually was. Then he backed out at the thought of having to deal with another boring conversation.
I’ve personally been involved in the “something personal happened” reason. I told a guy I would call him and one of my close friends ended up going through a really rough time. I ended up being there for her and it completely slipped my mind to call the guy. When I finally did, he got annoyed that I didn’t call him earlier and didn’t want to talk to me without ever hearing the reason why.
The third reason may sound stupid, but it definitely does happen. The person thinks that you’re too good for them or they just really like you, they have no idea what to do next and get too scared to call you so they just don’t. Surprisingly enough, to some people the mere idea of screwing up is more powerful then the possibility of being with someone.
If a person doesn’t call you after what you think is a fabulous date, then the best thing that you can do is forget about it. If the person wants to talk to you, they’ll make an effort to do it. If something personal happens, then after they go through it you’ll receive a phone call. Don’t sit there and think “What did I do?” because that is the worst possible thing that you can do. Don’t waste your time caring about someone, that doesn’t care about you. If the person calls you after a couple or a few weeks, don’t read them the riot act about why they didn’t call you. Give them a chance to explain themselves. Any good person is going to be willing to apologize for not calling earlier.
Don’t get me wrong, it will definitely be rough if you think you found an amazing person and had an outstanding date, but you won’t have a choice but to get past it. What you can do is get more involved in your hobbies, in your work and in your friends. The best thing you can do to keep your mind off one thing, is to get it involved in another.