Jun 05 2008
Do You Only Stick To One Type?
When you begin dating, you start to pick out the characteristics of a mate that are most desirable. After a few dates with a few people, there’s a good chance that you could look back and realize that those that you have dated are quite similar to each other. But what happens when you form the idea in your head of what type of mate that you want and you stick to only that?
As much as we would like to have the ability to mold our mate to our exact specifications, we can’t. I’ve known women who refuse to date men that aren’t blond and I’ve known men that refuse to date women that are over 5′3. Those are their types and their sticking to them. But why? Is it out of habit, preference or just refusal to back down off of getting exactly what they want? Who says that the 5′3 woman is going to be a better girlfriend then the 5′7 woman? Why couldn’t the brunette man be the perfect person for the woman looking for a blond man?
Instead of passing over on a date because that person doesn’t meet a specific type that you’re set on, maybe that person is exactly what you’re looking for. Set a challenge for yourself. If someone asks you out, or you have an opportunity to go out on a date with a person that you would otherwise pass on, give it a shot. It could be the best decision that you ever made. What do you have to lose?
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Great advice…you go girl!
That could be a difficult situation and there really is no set answer it varies from person to person. The best bet is to identify in the first place why they were attracted to the addicts that they were. This isn’t going to be easy, but it can be done. Once they know why they were, they can start be aware of signs in the future. They have to listen to their gut. Many times the signs are there just waiting to be seen. However, a person can’t LOOK for signs because when they do they run the risk of becoming paranoid and looking and “finding” things that aren’t really there. Catching the signs is awareness, it has to be natural. If a person truly listens to what their gut is telling them then they’ll have many of the answers that they’re looking for.
Trying to define and stick to a ‘type’ will get you in trouble. I’ve learned from that mistake many times over. Simply because he’s five inches taller than me, dresses stylishly, speaks well etc. does not mean he’s going to be right for you. Sometimes the guy may just be FOUR inches taller instead of five, and it can be a good thing.
Good post! Gave me some food for thought