Dating

I kind of feel bad when people tell me that they met this really great person, they hung out once or twice and talked on the phone a few times. Then after that the “really great person” suddenly became busy. They return a phone call a week later and when you bring up the idea of going on a date they change the subject or make some type of joke. It’s even worse if they complain to you how horrendously busy they are and how they have no time to do anything with their friends.  Here’s why I feel bad.

The people that tell me these stories believe that the person is interested in them. If what I said to you sounds familiar, here are some hints as to why the person is not interested in you.

*If the person wants to talk to you and they’re interested in you, they’ll make every effort possible whether it be via phone call, text message, instant message, email, messaging through a social network, etc etc etc. There are so many quick and easy ways to get in contact with someone that it’s hard to NOT talk to someone. When someone meets a great person, they’re not going to keep themselves from contacting them no matter how busy their lives are. How long does it really take to send a quick email?  If you haven’t heard from them in awhile and they suddenly send you a text or an email out of nowhere and say “I’m sorry I’ve been soooo busy” then chances are they’re not very interested in you.

* When you talk to this person and they change the subject or make a joke when you ask them to go on a date or hang out, they’re avoiding giving you an answer because they don’t want to go. If someone asks you to hang out and you want to, you’re going to respond with something along the lines of “Sure, what do you have in mind” not “Wow you want to take me to a sushi restaurant. I had sushi last night. Let me tell you how sushi is made…”

* If a person has a feeling that you’re going to ask them for a date and they start complaining about how busy they are before you even say a word about it, they’re sending out a vibe to you not to ask them to do anything. If someone wants you to ask them to hang out or ask them for a date, they’re going to hint at you that they have free time sometime.

Basically if a person wants to see you and talk to you, they’ll make the effort to do so. Even people like doctors who work days straight and businessmen who constantly travel still have time to see and talk to people that they’re interested in, even if it’s only to see or talk to that person for a few minutes. Save yourself the hassle, don’t constantly question about why this person isn’t interested in you and instead find someone who is.

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