Aug 08 2008
Stretching the Truth on the First Date
On the first date, do you believe that it is okay to stretch the truth about your life? For example, should you say that you’re 29 when you’re really 33? In my opinion, absolutely not.
I’m not a fan of stretching the truth, or basically lying. Look at it this way. Using the example above, when the person you’re dating finds out that you’re not the age you said you were, how is he supposed to react to being fibbed to. Not only that, but now his family and friends are going to know your age. How is he supposed to explain getting your age wrong? If he says “She told me she was that age” you now look like a liar to the people he cares about the most. You may not think of it as a big deal, but loved ones are THE MOST critical regarding who the person dates. Any indication that you’re a liar or that you “stretched the truth” is not going to be attractive to them.
The only way to start out dating anyone, especially if it could turn into long term, is to start out with pure honesty. Besides, the person is eventually going to find out that whatever you fibbed about isn’t true.
You should be who you truly are with no shame to it at all. No one is perfect and you should own up to the great things that you’ve done and who you are as well as what your flaws are (whatever you consider them to be).
If you feel that you have to fib about something, then that’s an internal issue that you have to deal with. If you feel that you have to fib because of the other person, then you probably shouldn’t be dating them in the first place.
8 Responses to “Stretching the Truth on the First Date”
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I am always honest, if someone does not like me for who I am, oh well. i tell people I am 50 years old and they don’t beleive me anyway. So I could say I could say anything there, but I say my age and they say no way.
I definitely agree with what you are saying. You have very valid and important points. In addition, if the person you are dating finds out you fibbed about one thing, he or she is going to wonder what else you fibbed about! That’s not the way to have a relationship. I completely agree with you - honesty is always best!
Sierra
http://anxiety.today.com
I totally agree with you. If it starts out on a lie, there’s always going to be lying going on. The one thing I won’t stand in a person is lying. I’m an easy-going person and nothing really surprises me, so I don’t get upset easily when anything happens. However, if I’m lied to then that trust is broken and it’s hard for me to accept it back in a person.
Diana
http://single.today.com
I agree completely. Relationships are built on trust and lies just destroy that.