Dating

It must be something in the air lately, but I’ve had more people than usual tell me that they met someone whose ex is still in the picture. I was asked if they should continue to hope that the person that they’re interested will get rid of the ex.

Basically if your interest’s ex is around, you may have a problem. If the person that you’re interested in refuses after a long while to push the ex away and focus on you, you may want to focus on other options. Ex’s can be messy and you don’t want any part of that drama. You also don’t want to get your heart smashed to bits.

Here’s some hope for you. For the most part, not all but many people will push their ex out of their life if there is a potential new person in the picture. If they person is interested in you and they want more, there’s no need for the ex to be anywhere around. Slowly but surely, you may start to represent the present and future while the ex will just represent the past.

If the ex is in the picture and s/he wants your interest back and/or you suspect that your interest still has strong feelings, it’s a situation you don’t want to be involved in. Don’t force them to get rid of the ex, but honestly express how you feel and take it from there. You can’t make someone do something that they’re not willing to do.

Would you consider dating someone who was separated and/ or in the process of getting a divorce? Obviously this is a tricky situation and you need to think long and hard before you proceed with your decision.

Legally the person that you want and their spouse are still married. It’s complicated enough, maybe so much so that you throwing yourself into the mix may not be such a good idea. While the possibility of them getting back together isn’t likely, the option is still there especially if they’re still legally married. Ending a marriage is a huge decision so some may choose to stay and work through it…and that leaves you in the dust. Remember that the person you want has no commitment to you, they do however have a commitment to their spouce.

Your best bet may be to just back off and stay friends only with this person until the ink dries (fully) on the divorce papers. You may even want to wait awhile after that. Ending a marriage is draining and the persons heart may not be in the right place for them to jump into another relationship. Before you rush into what it is that you want, consider where the other person is as well. If you really are interested in this person, you definitely don’t want to be considered a rebound and chucked to the curb a few months later. Take your time and let things develop when everything else settles down.

There has been times when as a single person, you met someone who was taken and you were severely attracted to them. Do you pursue this person or do you just let it go?

I’ve heard complaints from many friends who tell me that they met someone who tells them that their boyfriend does this or their girlfriend does that- basically complaints. The question to me that follows is “Should I pursue this person who seems to be having problems with their significant other?” My response- absolutely not.

There are many times when you say that your boyfriend does this or your girlfriend does that, but all it is, is complaints. It doesn’t mean that this person is going to break up with their significant other or that they’re even thinking about breaking up with their significant other. If you make your move while they‘re still dating this other person, you could end up looking like a fool not to mention it’s classless. Not only that, but you wouldn’t want someone interfering in your relationship if the roles were reversed. If this person really wants to break up with their significant other, they will. The best thing that you can do is be continue to be friends with this person that you’re attracted to until the point (if it happens) that they choose to break up with their significant other. However, don’t wait for this person. Move on with your own life, date other people. If it gets to the point where both of you are single, then you can make your move. W