Dating

On the first date, do you believe that it is okay to stretch the truth about your life? For example, should you say that you’re 29 when you’re really 33? In my opinion, absolutely not.

I’m not a fan of stretching the truth, or basically lying. Look at it this way. Using the example above, when the person you’re dating finds out that you’re not the age you said you were, how is he supposed to react to being fibbed to. Not only that, but now his family and friends are going to know your age. How is he supposed to explain getting your age wrong? If he says “She told me she was that age” you now look like a liar to the people he cares about the most. You may not think of it as a big deal, but loved ones are THE MOST critical regarding who the person dates. Any indication that you’re a liar or that you “stretched the truth” is not going to be attractive to them.

The only way to start out dating anyone, especially if it could turn into long term, is to start out with pure honesty. Besides, the person is eventually going to find out that whatever you fibbed about isn’t true.

You should be who you truly are with no shame to it at all. No one is perfect and you should own up to the great things that you’ve done and who you are as well as what your flaws are (whatever you consider them to be).

If you feel that you have to fib about something, then that’s an internal issue that you have to deal with. If you feel that you have to fib because of the other person, then you probably shouldn’t be dating them in the first place.